Plastic is a dilemma

It is hard to ignore the fact that more and more places are cutting down on the use of plastic straws and encouraging people to use glass/stainless steel straws to "save the environment".

I have nothing against that... but I am quite aware that people are advocating the use of plastic (e.g. polyester, microfiber) in their clothing instead of fur/leather... so... how is this helping the environment???

Do we realize how much of that microfiber gets washed away with each wash? isn't that more damaging to the environment?

also... plastic straws are still widely used in Japan... if it weren't for social media, I wouldn't have heard about glass/stainless steel straws.

Responsibilties

Facebook is getting quite messy with a lot of people complaining about EVERYTHING... so for the record... let me get this straight.


It's not a man's job to:

• elevate your status
• make you "rich"
• a man should not define your self worth

I am frustrated that I have to even talk about this... SERIOUSLY... If you want to have an elevated status or want to be "rich" achieve it yourself... why count on someone to give you a fairytale? If you can't... well... we know why you don't deserve to be "elevated" or "rich".


it's not a woman's job to:

• make you a man
• to define who you are (if you are strong, then you are, don't expect a woman to give you empty praises)

Is the world really overpopulated?

Everywhere I go, people are always talking about how we are overpopulated... there are too many people and there will be a crisis in 20, 30, or even 50 years. But are we really?

If that were true, then why are countries like Japan, Canada, Singapore and EVEN China* encouraging their citizens to have more kids? Where in the world are we overpopulated? and if so... why are countries more worried about not having a big enough population?... (I was even told by locals that a lot of third world countries are not able to keep their population either.)

These are questions... feel free to answer them in the comments below...

*China has recently cancelled their one child per couple policy and constantly encouraging their citizens to get married and have kids.

Deception...

Jellyfish in an aquarium

a few scenarios

1. You have created an art work and someone infringes on your work, but you are not mad, but happy because it means your work is good enough to be infringed...
2. Instead of being paid to do work, companies demand to ask you to do free work... As if it is the norm... Instead of getting mad, you are happy that you have a chance to be affiliated with this big corporation...
3. Someone sexually harasses you, but you aren't mad because it means that you are pretty enough to be sexually harassed...
4. You find a job but they are paying you way less than what you deserve, yet you do not complain but happy because "at least" you have a job...

What is wrong with all these scenarios? The idea behind it is all wrong, people are using your ego to their benefit.

There is a difference between being used and being valued. If you were valued, you would not be deceived and taken advantage of... There is no free lunch in this world... you should not be the one giving these "free lunches"... if you don't believe me... try getting something for free... I dare you.

As mentioned above... the 4 scenarios are all wrong... completely wrong, yet, we deal with these with a simple "c'est la vie", しょがない, that's life, that's how it is...

We live in a twisted world, where people take advantage of each other. People tell you that that is how the way things work, but it isn't... they are trying to deceive you... so they can take advantage of you.

PLEASE... Know your rights and stand up for them! Know your value, let your actions show others what is your worth.

IF you deceive someone, you lose one of life's greatest treasures, you lose the capacity to trust. Because without trust, love is not possible - Unknown

Facebook blessing or curse?

I like to be on Facebook... I have been using Facebook since 2005... I love how I can reconnect with old friends, colleagues and classmates and get to see an update on what they are currently doing.

However, with all these pros... There come cons... Whenever I post I have to think about whether this post will benefit me... How would people view me and is it even good enough to share... It is because of these thoughts that create a lot of pressure and sometimes... I am just reluctant to post anything... On bad days... I would actually think

Facebook has created itself in becoming a tool for us to compare ourselves to others... The like feature has been both a blessing and a curse...

I never know how to react when my friend request stays as a request or when I get unfriended or if someone who unfriended me suddenly friends me back... there just seems to be so much drama going on.... >____< seriously...

And then, on another note, when my friends suddenly shut down their accounts, should I contact them... but what if the only way to contact them is through facebook?

I have too many questions... 

Social Media vs Blogs

computers and monitors

Why are blogs slightly better than social media sites: ( in other words... Why do I still have a personal blog)

1. Searchable

2. Easy to navigate

3. More personal

4. Leaves a less "I am showing off" impression

I always feel that social media is to connect people... not break or express strong opinions. 

little things

random "garbage" on the floor a piece of my hairbrush fell off

have you ever dropped something but because you couldn't pick it up (either you couldn't find it or you were rushing out) and later only to discover it when you stump on it?

It happens to be EVERY TIME!!!!! it is so annoying!!!! No matter where it was dropped (behind the sink, rolled under my bed... it always finds itself to my feet!!! I always regret not picking it up right away... (not that I didn't want to).... sigh...

please don't tell me I'm not the only one who experiences this...

B612 gone too far

B612

Has photoshopping gone too far??? Why is B612 bragging about their latest beauty effect....

#clueless #whatisreal

Needy bride of Christ?

disagreement

Am I a needy "wife"?

Jesus Christ and my Heavenly Father walked out on me just 2 months into our spiritual marriage and never came back... The last word I heard from them was I was too needy... I have to be more independent...

But... This is me... He knows it... He created me... He knows I need HIM! Or else... Why do I need this marriage... This baptism?

Fast forward to 8 years later, I continue to seek... Yet I do not find... I knock but the door does not open... I had a miserable time without the presence of Jesus Christ and my Heavenly Father... I feel tricked into baptism... if I wasn't baptized yet... maybe I would still have a good relationship with Him. 

Sigh... I just want to talk to Him like I used to... I just want our relationship to grow... I miss the relationship and moments we shared... The time we had before my baptism... Before I declared I was His and He was mine's...

Why did He leave? Why is He not responding to me!??!?!?! Why can't He just show His face?!?!?!!?!?!?!?!

Earthly relationships Parallel heavenly relationships

relationships

I managed to make a connection with my relationships with men. I don't care whether He is my spiritual husband (Jesus Christ) or whether he is an earthly potential (Mr. K).... They are all the same... Once they know they have you... They will abandon you...

Why are all men the same? Is that why the bible says "So God created mankind in his own image..." Genesis 1:27

man and woman

God, Jesus Christ... men... (specifically men I like) are all the same... when they want to pursue you... they will do ANYTHING... but when they know you are hooked... then they take you for granted...

Before I got baptized, Jesus, God... it was so obvious they tried to hard to pursue me... to love me and to always be in my presence and make it known they are there... but after my baptism... they just drifted off...

Mr. K is the same... before I started liking Mr. K he would always message me and get my attention... but once I started to be more responsive... he started to drift off...

WHY ARE MEN SO FRUSTRATING!?!??!

Paper marriage license

marriage certificate

*please note that Baptism is the Christian allegory of "getting married" to Christ.

Recently I came to realize just how superficial my marriage (baptism) with Christ is.

We don't interact like we used to. We don't even talk... I try to talk to Him but He only wants to be a secret admirer... Sometimes I feel Him helping me from behind the scenes, like someone who just wants to let you guess who is it... and never reveal themselves... except the problem is... we are married... committed... why does He do this? 

... I do not see Him... I try to talk to Him but He ignores me... He listens but He doesn't respond..  I ask for "intimacy"... But He doesn't give... He just shuts me out... 

I ask Him what's wrong? But He doesn't tell me... I am confused... Why is He acting like this?... I have tried everything I could think of... all advice I could get my hands on... but our relationship is still the same...

It hurts me to not be able to talk to my husband... We are married... Committed... But He is not making this marriage any easier... why did we get married if He does this? Shouldn't our relationship grow?... 

relationships... games?

while having a thought process (aka talking to myself) something occurred to me... we are no longer young. Relationships are no longer a game... if you still consider relationships a game at this age (late 20s)... you are clearly immature and there is something wrong with you...

actually... relationships should never be considered a game... to begin with... only immature, selfish, insecure and low self confidence type of people play games... because they can't show others who they really are...

a note to all real estate agents

Dear Arrogant Real Estate Agents,

Please note that just because you are "selling" houses, doesn't mean you actually "own" them. You only get money if you are able to help someone sell or buy that property.

I also happen to know that all you need is a 60% to pass the exam and get a real estate license to become a real estate agent... so please... PLEASE don't act like you are superior to everyone else... and that you have "so much" knowledge...

Keep in mind, your job is to help your clients find a suitable place... not to create more problems for them... nor tell them that they can't afford this or that. They are paying you... not the other way around. There's a reason why they are called "clients" and there's a reason why you are being paid...

Thank You,

Relationship thoughts

photo source: inner bonding

(I found this lying in my drafts and realize this post was never posted... :O... I wrote this post all the way back in September 2014... thought it is still worthy of being published!)

Not to get into any specific details, during the past month (Aug, 2014), I realize how tough it is being in a relationship....

Relationships take a lot of time and energy.... Long d relationships require even more... (as if time differences weren't already a real issue).

What I learned about myself in this "relationship":

• I can be quite selfish
• I am very defensive (extremely afraid to get hurt)
• I am not as considerate as I thought I was
• I am very oblivious to lots of signs
• I am clueless...
• I think I have some form or another of "princess sickness" (公主病)
• It is so easy for me to fall
• It is easy for me to gain and lose a sense of security
• I get jealous really easily
• I do not know how to flirt (I seriously SUCK at it -_____-)
• Simple and small things can make me very happy
• If problems happen... I get scared and hide... I avoid confrontation... and competition....

I think these are due to past crush relationships and "experiences"... I realized how fragile I am... relationships really expose your flaws and reveals your insecurities...

now what I gotta do... HOW to be better in a relationship! :)

Xanga emoticons

It has been almost 2 years since I had to move to blogger/blogspot because Xanga was closing down... (Time flies!)

Sometimes when I'm writing I can't help but miss the Xanga emoticons... They really helped me enhance and display my emotions better... Some times I even type in the shortcuts but later realizing those shortcuts are meaningless... 

While blogger/blogspot has provided me with lots of conveniences... I still do miss Xanga... I miss the layout options and just the WYSIWYG inspires me to write... I think blogger's is too plain and doesn't inspire me the same way...

I miss Xanga... a lot....

Sacrifices

This so true...

If you aren't willing to stay for me... Why should I give up my freedom for you?

#singlevstaken

Life is short

photo credits: Unknown

Life is short... So short, I know this sounds really cliche but I'm telling the truth... Look at all the plane incidents that has happened this past week... It is terrible... Really heartbreaking, my heart has literally shattered and my eyes pour out tears... People are dying in batches, hundreds to be exact... My prayers to them...

photo credits: beautifulshares.wordpress.com

Life is short, what would you do as you send off your friend/family member thinking it might be the last time you will ever see them again?

Treasure them, say things to them, love them, live life with no regrets...

6 year old with a coach bag

photo credits: rapgenius.com

last week, on the TTC, I saw a 6 year old girl with a tiny coach bag... (not tiny for her size) and no... it wasn't her mother's/sister's... etc

seriously?? why do kids need Coach purses?? shouldn't they be after backpacks or cartoon/anime... bags? I find that quite crazy... and slightly annoying.

what is happening???

updates

hey guys,

sorry, I know I haven't blogged here for a while... just want to write this post to let you all know that I'm still alive... I caught the stomach flu a few weeks ago (definitely not fun)

work has been quite tough, I'm stressed and extremely tired... >.< waking up at 7:XX is definitely not my thing... and I am literally struggling to sleep early... seriously hoping and praying that I can work at home!!

back to work T____T

p.s. sorry this post sounds so depressing (it is Monday... 9:00AM and I am frustrated over stupid computer problems >.<)

now... what is Freedom of Speech?

I find it absolutely ridiculous …. and find a huge disappointment at the policies that the school systems in Canada is implementing.

What were they thinking…?

1. It is ok to freely talk about being LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transexual) It is even ok to admit you are one and be "proud" (OK, this part can be acceptable, after all, we all are here to learn about accepting one another)

2. It is alright to talk about Islamic beliefs, Buddhism beliefs… etc. In fact, the teachers encourage students to do so. (again, this is ok, since we are trying to share with everyone what we think, believe, etc)

3. Why can’t those wish to celebrate Christian holidays also? Why must Christmas be refered to as “Happy Holidays” and it is wrong to say Merry Christmas? (Please go and look up the meaning of this holiday,  it was created for the celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ... not made for your family gatherings and present giving holiday, please be respectful. If you intend to "steal" someone's holiday and celebration, at least be nice about it...)

I am reminded of a news story I heard about a year ago:

A Student is suspended for wearing a "Life is wasted without Jesus." themed t-shirt (isn't this kid, like others just trying to express his beliefs?)

two questions:

Why is everyone so against Christianity? Why do Christians not have "equal" treatment?

AND

What does freedom of speech mean? Why are there so many contradictions when it comes to this right?